Jon and Rachel

our lives, our love, and our adoption journey

These Are a Few of Our Favorite Things July 30, 2008

Filed under: about us,Adoption,Family time — jonandrachel @ 2:17 pm

Rachel   Jon  
Lemony Snicket Author Eoin Colfer  
Hot chocolate with
hazelnut syrup
Drink/Beverage Mountain Dew  
Series of Unfortunate
Book Artemis Fowl  
Take 5 Candy Bar Snickers  
Yearly family reunions
with the extended family
Childhood Memory Camping and hiking trips with my family  
My Kid Sister doll, her
name was Emily
Childhood Toy LEGOS  
Orange Color Red  
Brownies – the fudge kind Dessert Chocolate Pie  
Switzerland Dream Vacation European Castles  
Gelato Food Cheese  
Five Crowns Game Skip-bo  
Cooking Hobby Reading  
Christmas Holiday 4th of July  
Cooking Light or Rachael
Magazine TIME  
Taking Jon to Disneyland
for the first time
Memory with Spouse Hearing Rachel say “holy
crap that’s big” after seeing the Grand Canyon for the first time
Gilmore Girls (why did it
have to end?)
TV Show West Wing  
Josh Groban Music Classic Rock  
Breakfast foods Thing to cook Barbecue  
Driving by the giant inflatable Santa  (obscenely giant – it makes me laugh) Tradition Waking up early on Christmas to open presents


When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking July 21, 2008

Filed under: about us,Adoption,Birth Mother,Family time — jonandrachel @ 12:56 pm

One of my favorite poems…


When You Thought I Wasn’t Looking
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you hang up my first painting on the refrigerator, and I wanted to paint another one.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me, and I knew that little things are special things.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I believed there is a God I could always talk to.
When you thought I wasn’t looking, I felt you kiss me goodnight, and I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw tears come from your eyes and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it’s all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw that you cared, and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I LOOKED….and wanted to say thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t looking.

-Mary Rita Schilke Korzan


Moments of wonder July 19, 2008

Filed under: about us,Adoption,Family time — jonandrachel @ 10:14 pm


Milwaukee Harbor lighthouse

Milwaukee Harbor lighthouse

We made it to Milwaukee a couple of days ago, and have been spending time with our dear friends and their cute 1-year old little boy.  Last night we took a boat tour on the river and Lake Michigan with them, and I found myself wishing (a lot) that we had a little one in our lives. It is amazing how much this little guy can change our hearts and perspective on life in just a few days.  The waiting is hard, but these moments give a glimpse of the sweetness that lies ahead. This has been a fabulous vacation! 




…And the skies were not cloudy all day July 16, 2008

Filed under: about us,Adoption,Family time — jonandrachel @ 9:48 pm

We spent the last few days crossing South Dakota and Minnesota. The picture was taken in Wind Cave, just a little bit south of Mt. Rushmore, but we also saw the Crazy Horse monument, spent time driving through the Badlands, and played a lot of games together.  We took along Jon’s parent’s GPS and had fun plugging in our destinations and the laughing at where it actually sent us. The first night of our trip we plugged in a restaurant. The GPS took us up the side of a mountain. As we headed up there, we got excited for a resort town type restaurant/dinner. When it told us we were at our destination, we were facing the side of a mountain with nothing there. It is lucky we didn’t chuck the thing out of the window. Note to all: the Broken Spur Cafe in Casper, WY does NOT exist (at least that we could find). 

South Dakota is beautiful. We could have spent a week there and still have not seen everything there was to see. Mostly it was nice just spending time together. We even ended up extending our trip longer than planned. Our phones were out of range for most of the trip so we were able to focus on what matters most…our family!



Birthmothers and First Mothers July 7, 2008

Filed under: Adoption,Birth Mother,Birthparent,First Mother,Openness — jonandrachel @ 11:08 pm

Please excuse me as I stumble trying to convey my thoughts on this subject. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking over the last couple of days about the terminology of birthmother vs. first mother. I first heard the phrase “first mother” as I was perusing the web over the weekend and I LOVE it.  I like how it sounds. I like what it implies.  To our family the birth/first mother’s role encompasses so much more than merely the pregnancy and birth.  Someone once told me that when you love someone, a part of you will always love them and they will forever have a place in your heart.  Just as the first mother will always love her child, we, as a family, will always love her for role she plays in our family.  I am humbled daily to think about the legacy of love the first mother passes on to her child and eternally grateful to someday have the opportunity to add to the legacy, as the second mother.



Another Road Trip

Filed under: about us,Adoption,Family time — jonandrachel @ 9:12 pm

We’re getting ready to head out on a road trip! We’ve spent most of our vacations west of the Rockies, but this time we’re heading through South Dakota and Minnesota on the way to Milwaukee.  Mount Rushmore, Minuteman Missile silos, and lots of nothing, plus a few lakes and the Mississippi River.  Should be a good trip, and we’ll post pictures as we go (hopefully)!

– Jon


Our Families July 4, 2008

Filed under: about us,Adoption — jonandrachel @ 11:24 am

We both come from wonderfully supportive families. We are fortunate to live nearby both sets of parents. Some of our favorite time is spent up at our family property in Idaho. We even helped build a lodge with our extended family!  We love to take weekend trips there and spend time playing games, canoeing, flying kites and Dutch oven cooking. Both families have been enthusiastic supporters of our decision to pursue adoption. They are waiting with much anticipation to love and spoil a new addition to our family.

We also have the privilege of living close to our niece and two nephews. We’ve been lucky enough to watch them grow and participate in their lives. We’ve spent time carving pumpkins, baking Christmas cookies, riding the train, playing at the park, painting fingernails and building LEGOS…and we’ve loved every minute of the laughter and smiles they’ve given us in return. We look forward to building experiences like these into traditions with our children.